How to get me to give you money. It’s not by sending me your stupid donation email.

Interrupting my California recap to rant and to commend.

I am frequently bombarded by e-mails from Israel-related organizations that want my money either to help uphold the democratic values that Americans so value about Israel or to help poor starving children with one arm on this holiest of Jewish holidays.  I delete all of them.

I have donation fatigue.  And I have no idea where my money is going.  Yes, there is Charity Navigator for American charities. But I have no idea how effective the organizations that constantly send me e-mails are, even if I am very familiar with their work and know tons of people who work there.   If they are e-mailing me constantly, they are spending less money on actual work and more on administrative tasks.

Also,  if you are e-mailing me every day (every single Jewish organization on the face of this planet who unfortunately know that I exist due to my excessive active youthful participation in the mailing list of every single Jewish organization on the face of this planet), you will get $0 from me.  I’ll use Jewish organizations as examples, because those are the ones I’m most familiar with.  Here are some examples of the messages that beseech me to give:

Right into the trash.  Why?  Because I was a slave worked at Hillel on my own volition, giving the organization my blood, sweat, and tears for all of my college career (and it was great-I met the majority of my friends there).  And there is no way students leave legacies behind.  The people who wrote this don’t understand how campus Hillels work.  They are extremely fluid and, because of administration bureaucracy, manage to make not much of an impact beyond the four years you spend there.

Donations are not what makes the organization on a branch level run.  Usually, funding is obtained by writing tons and tons and tons of grant applications, a process that, had I spent just a bit longer on, I would have been qualified as a grant specialist in any non-profit.   These parents that this e-mail is appealing to, however, likely don’t know this unless they also toiled at Hillel.

Here’s another one.  The New Israel Fund, who I donated to once to give money to Russian Israelis to marry as Israelis in Israel, now have not taken the hint that I don’t really want to give any more money to them and keep sending me things like this, which cites a survey of dubious origins that polled only 500 Israelis (doesn’t say which area of the country, etc.), to alarm me into giving them money with a nice use of an urgent Ben-Gurion side-quote,

And then there’s the JTA.

JTA, I don’t know if you realize this, but EVERY moment in time is fraught with challenges and opportunities for the Jewish people.  And if I want a news update, I can get it from the Jewish Peoples’ News source: Twitter.  And if that fails, there’s my mom.  Stop patronizing me. Please.

I delete lots and lots of these e-mails every day. These organizations are not the only guilty ones.

And then, I found an effective way to give.

I very frequently read and share stories from David of Treppenwitz, one of my favorite Israeli bloggers. Recently,  he posted,

Long time readers will recall that one of the things I like to do throughout the year is drop off the occasional hot or cold drink (depending on the season) as well as the odd bag of cake or cookies for the soldiers I pass along my daily commute.

Up to this point these small gestures have been funded entirely by the ad revenue generated by this site.  However, as the revenue from the sidebar ads has been, ahem, a little slow in the past couple of months… I was hoping that some of you might like to step up and join me in participating in this small, but meaningful, gesture.

I sent money to him.  Because I know exactly what he is doing.   And he doesn’t send me beseeching and patronizing e-mails.  And, actually, he probably doesn’t remember, but when I was in Israel in 2006 during the Israel-Lebanon War, he was driving t-shirts and underwear up to soldiers in the North and I emailed him asking if I could come and help and he actually called me by cell phone to tell me that my help was much-appreciated, but that he was all set.

I don’t mean to pile on these organizations because some of what they do is very good work. And I understand how hard it is to raise money for Jewish causes, or for any cause for that matter.  However, the constant fund-seeking is really wearing me out, because I have no idea where my money goes with large organizations and because they need to stop being so patronizing.  With David, I get the following email,

Hi Vicki,

Thank you so much for your generous donation.  It will certainly buy

lots of cold juices, iced teas and sodas for the soldiers.  Thanks to

you and a few other wonderful people I will be able to delivery drinks

and snacks for the entire summer and probably most of the fall as


And rest assured, I will make sure to let them know that there are

many wonderful people behind this gesture.

Warm Regards,


David Bogner

Efrat, Israel